Conflict and disputes are just a part of life but there are times when they are more intense than normal. We can experience conflict in any setting where there are other people, at home, in relationships, in the workplace, or even more serious matters like construction, contracts and the like. Disputes can be a major source of distress and if left unresolved, can take a huge toll on us mentally, physically, and emotionally including having a major impact on our brains. Studies have shown that the way you handle stressful situations can have an impact on your memory, mood and even your lifespan.
Stress in our Bodies
Our bodies have a self-defence mechanism called stress to guard us against harmful elements in the world. Stress will tell us one of two things; I’ve been hurt or about to be hurt. If we hurt our brain goes into action releasing adrenaline and cortisol within minutes causing us to become more impulsive. Close to the flight or fight reaction you might have heard of. With anticipative stress we experience this in most long term conflicts with peer or family and friends; we worry about an outcome that may or may not come true. This can harm you as much as the outcome. Sometimes we stress for no reason! While we are stressing, our body is releasing Adrenaline and Cortisol as if you were actually in danger. These hormones are designed to be in short bursts and can therefore be harmful if they are realised chronically. It’s like your body and brain is on hyper-alert status with no rest in-between.
Long term effects of unresolved stress
The problem with cortisol is like most hormones in the body it has an optimal range therefore going above that level can have a negative effect. When stress lingers it can lead to problems such as depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, burnout and memory loss. This can also affect your sleep patterns and weaken your immune system.
Have you noticed that you can become sick when you are stressed? It’s one of the way’s your body is trying to communicate with you that something is wrong. Cardiovascular events such as heart attacks and strokes are more common during these times. Long term stress changes the way our brain functions, leading to other effects that may not be realised at the time of the event, sometimes it will show up years after.
Settle Conflict and Disputes, fast!
We can’t always control or change the conflict that arises or how it can turn into major disputes, but we can get proactive about finding smart ways to resolve conflict. One of the reasons we stand behind mediation is that is allows disputes to be resolved in short timefames, where everyone knows where they stand, and a resolution can be worked towards. Taking disputes through court can take years, just imagine the stress on your body in that time.
Why not get in touch to see how SHAW DR can assist you in resolving your disputes. It’s important to us that we help you find a resolution, as fast as possible, allowing you to move on sooner.